Dear Karen

Hi, Karen
I’ve been seeing a co-worker, he lives with his girlfriend he says that he doesn’t love her and hasn’t slept with for 9 months now. He says that he loves me and he wants me to wait until income tax so he can pay her a big sum of money that he owes her, then we will move in together. What should I do? Should I wait 5 more months? When he’s home on the weekends he doesn’t call me because she is home. I really love this guy and when we are at work he treats me very well. Can you advise me please. Thanks

Hi There,
You don’t give me that much information but honestly, if I were you, I would stop seeing him until he has made a commitment to you. Someone said this to me recently. “Never believe what a man says, watch what he does” You can’t believe what he is saying to you until he acts on it. He may be telling the truth but he may not be. I think if you really believed him, you wouldn’t be writing to me. You could say to him that you can’t see him until he has left her. You’ll still see him at work but you’ll be protecting yourself. Also, don’t you worry about the way he’s treating his girlfriend. If he can lie to her then he can lie to you. Sorry but, it doesn’t sound like a great situation. It sounds like he’s having his cake and eating it. Good luck.
Love Karen

COMMENT FROM ANONYMOUS
Comment:
It amazes me that we women accept less from a man/relationship than we would from a friend. I should know. I accepted less for a very long time…21 years to be exact. I am done being treated badly by a man and making excuses in the name of Love. If someone Loves you, they don’t lie to you, they don’t give you their left-over time, they don’t treat you like a dirty secret & they don’t continue to hurt you by not making you a priority. If someone Loves you and you tell them that that are hurting you; they apologize and make changes so that they do not hurt you anymore. We treat people how to treat us. After 21 years of accepting being treated badly, I have finally realized that I deserve to be Loved. I would rather be alone and be happy by Loving myself than in a relationship with someone who hurts me and calls it Love.