He wants to sleep with other women.
I am with a guy for two and a half years and in love, but he wants other women and there is nothing I can do to change that. He says that he loves me but can’t and doesn’t want to stop… I can’t let go…help!
I’m really sorry for you. Your letter is so short and sad and I can only advise you on how this probably feels. Firstly I know you have very strong feelings for him and 2 and a half years is a long time.
For some people having an open relationship is okay. For me it wouldn’t be and if it were okay for you then you wouldn’t be writing to me. I think anyone is capable of being faithful. The point is and you say it in your letter, he doesn’t want to stop. It’s his choice and it’s your choice whether you stay with him or not. In a relationship one of the most important things is to want to make your partner happy – what you can give to your partner? What you can bring to the relationship? How can you help them grow? That is what I believe makes a healthy relationship. Your partner is doing something that makes you unhappy. He is telling you though and being honest and you have the choice whether to stay or go. You can be with someone who’s priority is to make you happy and care for you and I know that your feelings are strong but this is not the guy, not now anyway.
If you let go of him – know in your heart that you are letting go of something that was not helping you as a person. Letting go will help you grow and find self- respect. I hope you can.
Love Karen
April 28th, 2009 at 11:19 pm
OMg do I know this feeling , only we have been together 4 years and we are engaged and have a 3 year old son together. He told me about it early on in the relationship. I adored him so much that I thought I could deal. He spoils me rotten, he is great to our son, we had a great sex life, I thought I could deal with this. Even tried to help him make it work. I thought if I was part of it I could deal better, not!! It happened one time and I have been honest with him as he has with me and so I’ve just told him my feeling about it has changed I cant deal. He said he want act on his feeling but it is hard, so for awhile he was calling this chat line and just talking to woman, and he was only doing when I wasnt available to talk but I didnt like it , either because I felt left out and so many other emotions. After nany arguments he isnt doing it , he isnt calling the chat line, he isnt surfing porn, he only chats , but tells me everything that is said or Im there, but even that annoys me because we have very little time together, and its taken up with that. Since Ibhave said my feeling about other woman however our once terrific sex life is like no exsitant and a couple who never argued seems to very rarely have anything to say to each other. Or we arguing what am I going to do. I cant make it with out him , I dont want to be with out him, but…